How Does This Selection Thing Work?

In doing this I’m trying to be relatively flexible about who I get to meet and have only put down 2 “very important criteria”. The person MUST NOT smoke and they must not just be separated. So why is it that my “recommended matches” contain people who have these items in their profiles? In addition, the ages are usually at the younger end of my requested bracket and very rarely older. Not really impressed with their “selection ability” and wondering if this is actually worth the effort that I’m having to put in to find people to connect with.

And then we have the grammar police on my profile updates. I have had minor changes to my heading rejected because they do not comply with the systems grammar rules. Why then do I see profiles written in text short hand singlish all over the place. As the ability to write proper English is important to me I ignore those profiles out of hand (I see the free text box as the cover of the book (ie person). Yes, I shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, but as I have so little other information available and connecting takes time and energy, I’d rather wait for them to take the first move).

I’ve heard back from the guy who originally emailed me. In short he wrote to me because I am white and therefore likely pretty (I didn’t have a picture up at that stage) and have a degree. He is being really open minded – but I’m still a bit hesitant on the cross cultural relationship thing, especially white female, Asian male scenario (the other way around is VERY common – I’ll have to write a post on my take on this phenomena sometime.

Bit disappointed as I haven’t received any more messages from those people I’d contacted. Guess I’ll just have to try some more…